fashion is supposed to be a unique representation of your personality and image.....so why is it is homogenized?
Incorruptible Organizations AMA with Eric Ries. Wednesday 2/4 at 3:00 PM CT
Lean Startup author who now focuses on legal structures to protect mission-driven organizations from corruption. incorruptible.co
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QNfb54LuzwI
Hey Gang. Hey there! I am a children's book author, part time travel agent and sports nut. Hope everybody's hanging in there.
https://www.aaronfoxwrites.comis "The Body Keeps the Score" misleading, or even flat out disproven? I think this is an extremely important topic. So many people's ideas about trauma rest on the writings of Peter Levine and Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score author)—but what if they just don't hold up to scrutiny, and the "science" they reference doesn't exist or is misinterpretted? This substack article is provacative, but I like it because it's someone who might be coded "left" or "hippie" by a bunch of other beliefs.. Admittedly, I skimmed, and I got recommended it because i have my own views about the trauma mindset's shadows, but would be super curious people's thoughts.
here are some juicy tidbits:
much of this science is uncertain at best, and in some cases was discredited decades ago.
polyvagal theory, which van der Kolk heavily references, has been disproven. Paul Grossman, from Universitätsspital Basel in Switzerland, writes in this paper that the basic premises of polyvagal theory “have been shown to be either untenable or highly implausible based on the available scientific literature.”
I wish we talked more about the legions of people walking around who have trauma histories who have managed to lead healthy, happy lives. In my first few years as a therapist, I noticed that contrary to the trauma narratives we see reflected in pop culture, people who have traumatic experiences are often not irrevocably damaged by it, but instead use internal and external resources to overcome it. They form healthy relationships, have meaningful careers, and raise loving families. These trauma survivors are not unicorns.
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Part two debunked Peter Levine’s claims that trauma is stored in your body and needs to be released.
"Levine makes claims that are not supported by research and makes promises he cannot keep. He has contributed to fears that everyone has the residue of trauma lurking in their bodies by broadening the definition of trauma until it applies to any stressful experience. By exaggerating the degree to which traumatic memories are repressed, Levine (along with van der Kolk) has promoted the widespread fear that hidden trauma is causing somatic symptoms, even for those who have no memories of unpleasant experiences.
Ancestral trauma/patterns is real? bullshit? I've been working with a healer the past year that holds a more ancestral trauma frame being transmitted down the line. To believe such a thing, you kinda have to believe there's either (A) a non-material way of transmitting such trauma across generations or (B) we simply don't have the physical causation yet.
We do have the epigenetics research that shows descendants of people from poverty or famine have an effect even if their own upbringing didn't feature it at all.
On another hand, whatever is true subjectively is well true subjectively.
Is it simply an interpretation of our inner experience or could there be explanatory power?
Grief work is essential to the adult psyche. I just finished a three day weekend grief ceremony and been practicing grief as a thing this past year.
Obviously there's the failure case where you can get stuck in a loop around your trauma and grief. But, the opposite failure case also exists that most people are repressing their feelings and thereby getting stuck in their head. I'd argue a lot of the transhumanist folks are in this camp.
But an actual ceremony where everyone is supported, witnessed, and held in their grief and rage is a beautiful thing. In my experience, there's a certain half-life to each wave of grief and coming out of it, I'm more capable of taking in joy and being resourced. To the extent, a person can actually inhabit great grief seems to be correlated strongly to how much they can inhabit great joy and power with integrity. There isn't so much of a shadow of the psyche being terrified of meeting pains it cannot deal with and subtly using power to avoid them or fill them.
Seems like a huge missing piece in culture between all the yoga, fitness, authentic relating, and what not. To actually turn towards the broken places and let the body grieve. Many of the times, the grief isn't even about a lost loved one but just grieving the Earth, grieving old disappointments, grieving the suffering of loved ones, grieving ancient wounds that might not even be mine.
Creative thinking vs winning an argument. Creative thinking needs to be taught and valued as highly as smart thinking, right thinking, and ethical thinking.
I wonder if we've been trained - consciously and unconsciously - to converse in formats that can be intimidating and arguable ... inviting responses that are judging, which can then be judged back and forth: smart or stupid, right or wrong, ethical or corrupt ... that binary thing we do. I propose that this creates anxiety and intimidates creative brainstorming, mutually respectful musing, generous listening, genuine questioning, seeking connection and curious questions?
I can be as guilty as the next person - fishing for affirmation by winning a point in conversation ...
#DeepTakes
"You know, there are 13 ways of doing anything. 11 of them will work. Just pick one and do it.”. Dennis Hightower, who at the time was head of Disney International.
https://www.nfx.com/post/9-habits-world-class-startupsHe asked me why I wasn’t doing something, and I responded by explaining the pros and cons of two different ways of doing it. Thoughtfully, he replied “You know, there are 13 ways of doing anything. 11 of them will work. Just pick one and do it.”
The best Founders avoid over-analyzing. At a startup, you don’t have time — and the result will most likely be marginal. Pick a way and do it. Be consistently decisive.